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Failure is something that most of us if not all dread. Nobody loves a loser… remember the oft-repeated quote, ‘Laugh and the whole world laughs with you. Cry and you cry alone.’ The question that begs for answers is how can we avoid failure? Admittedly, there is no fast and quick answer here. For starters we look for answers inside of us. Why not use intelligence to minimize failures? Again you might counter, ‘What happens if you’re not intelligent enough to even recognize that you’re heading for Failureville?’

Nobody is miserable enough not to have a modicum of common sense about him or her. We all can sense negativism even as we all understand good deeds, intentions, the works. Why not try to be in control of yourself? Even in self control we take risks - the risk of losing control. But without risks can we be totally free?

Students who are college bound may be especially interested in the author Robert Sternberg, who in his book Intelligence Applied: Understanding and Increasing Your Intellectual Skills, lists a number of reasons that students fail to realize their full potential. As you read those reasons, identify the ones you see in yourself. Also, think about how many of the items on Sternberg’s list could be the result of not taking control, not asking for help, or just giving up.

Obstacles to Full Realization of Intelligence

1. Lack of motivation.
2. Inability to control impulses.
3. Difficulty in completing problems and following through.
4. Failure to begin tasks.
5. Fear of failure.
6. Procrastination.
7. Excessive self-pity.
8. Excessive dependence.
9. Blaming others for your difficulties.
10. Wallowing in personal difficulties.

It has been a lonely road for me, ever since my beloved Kates went abroad for work. I miss the times we dine out for dinner. I miss the times we play the part of the amateur, self-proclaimed food critic. And I miss the times when he gets those comments or feedback from the marketing staff of the restaurant that we take on. Either he gets good results or he gets hammered and criticized back. Well, like they say, it takes two to tango, right? Hahaha, whatever that means…

And so I take on the challenge of doing this hobby of ours, alone. I decided to try out a new place in Iloilo called the Bluechili Teahouse conveniently located in the heart of Iloilo City at the 2nd floor of Urban Inn, Luna Street Lapaz. You can always drop by the place even if you have your own wheels, or you just take the public transport vehicle. When you look at it outside you can immediately decipher that it is a restaurant with an Asian flair. I have tried some gourmet restaurants catering to that menu, and well, if must compare, in terms of taste and price, it was worth it. In terms of ambiance, the choice of colors and furniture was well suited, but since it is a teahouse in a building, it was rather warm inside. The air-conditioning unit was not fully functional. Too bad, especially if you order tea and some chilies to go with your dumplings. Their business card says that they cater to small parties, corporate and intimate meetings. I would say that it could be recommended as long as they improve on their A/Cs. The staff was hospitable and courteous. So I asked what was their house specialty, and the waiter serving me happily obliged with a detailed description of Bluechili’s specialty, which is dimsum. I ordered pork siomai and lomaikai (I can’t even pronounce the name of the dimsum). When it comes to food, I like a little bit of mystery and adventure, so I thought, okay here it goes! Well, Lomaikai was satisfying to the palate, and I was not disappointed with my choice. Its steamed sticky rice combined with ground pork, dried shrimp, and blackbeans wrapped in banana leaves. After finishing my meal, I decided to wash it down with their Herb Tea Honey Vanilla refillable tea. And I say to myself, “I feel good!” Afterwards, it was time to go check out their lavatory. And well, well, well it was clean! I’m impressed.

So, what’s my over-all assessment of Bluechili Teahouse? I give this hangout a thumbs up!

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As for me, I have moved to Singapore where I have more control over my future (financially, at least). I had been here for almost three months now and am enjoying it so far. There are still a lot of places I've yet to visit.

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The best things in life are free and here's a list of those gifts that I have tried giving but apparently I was not at all successful.

1. THE GIFT OF LISTENING...
I was REALLY listening but the guy who did the talking was an expert in monologue.
2. THE GIFT OF AFFECTION...
This is one gift that I must think twice in giving hugs, kisses, pat on the back and holds to my officemates least they'll be screaming, "sexual harassment!"
3. THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE...
I hesitate to give this twice over, the first time I scribbled a note to the officemate, she returned the note saying, "If you're here to ruin my eyesight with those ugly scrawl, don't even think about it!"
4. THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT...
The last time I uttered a simple and sincere greeting, I was hit right smack on my head. All I said was, "Today is your birthday, much as I like to give you a present, I'd rather give you a past."
5. THE GIFT OF A FAVOR...
I did this too but every time I go out of my way to do something kind, I forgot the way back in.
6. THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE...
This is where I excel the most, now everybody refers to me as that dysfunctional introverted guy who is a legend in his own mind!
7. THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION...
The last time I got bawled all over was slapping everybody's back during internment.
8. THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER...
At times the ravages of old age show themselves all at the ill-opportune time. I vow never to laugh boisterously with my loose dentures on. How can I help it? The guy's a killer at the punch line!

People who like to call themselves techies, go-to-guy, and the pejorative nerd are generally technology-savvy and conversant in their own field. This is only to be expected since it goes with the territory especially if you're a BS Info Tech, BS Computer Science or BS Computer Engineering graduate. It is however rare to find an employee who mastered both technical and people skills to climb higher the organizational ladder. Indeed everyone likes promotions, what with the added compensation, perks, and bragging rights. Let's forget momentarily the additional work and stress accompanying such career movement. Here's the whammy: Are you up to it? Do you have what it takes to work yourself up the rungs of the bureaucracy be it public or private? I bet you aren't since this topic was not even printed in the curriculum pages of your alma mater (only here at myiloilo.com).

I, too was stuck long enough in a junior executive position that the last time I check with the mirror, there were streaks of silver growing in my sideburns! And I wasn't going anywhere up the ladder. Seeing to it that the boss has just finished lunch and about to take his nap, I knocked and was admitted to his office. Here's a transcript of what transpired.

I: Sir, I'll be candid and di na magpaligoyligoy pa. Lucky you, this is the 2nd time you were promoted and about to leave for Metro Manila for your new assignment. Me, I'm stuck here for five years now. Can you please tell me your secrets?

Him: Ok I'll also be candid. There are three secrets I'll share with you. Secrets so simple enough you can apply immediately. First, I always keep things simple, I say my truth plain and short. Nobody likes to listen to longwinded lightning and thunder speeches signifying nothing. Simplify.

Second, always do more than what is expected. Any supervisor will appreciate that extra thing. Big bosses are mostly lonely guys. If you're alone in the executive office, it can be creepy at times. So as a lieutenant, every time I say my goodbyes to him, he always let me stay another extra day, to keep him company, to offer a shoulder where he can confidently shed off his frustrations and fears. Now this is working extra, since keeping him company is not in my job description form but no, I stayed with him.

Third and last, keep Sunday for the family. They too long for my companionship and care.

I, the tactless I: Sir, excuse me. Which family are you referring to?

End of interview and goodbye promotion.

Isang tao ang humarap kay San Pedro sa pintuan ng langit.

"Meron ka bang nagawang mabuti at kaaya-aya?" Tanong ni San Pedro.

"Meron pong isa," ang bulalat ng tao.

"Nung pumunta po ako sa Sangang Daan, Tondo, me nakita po akong mga barakong bikers na gumugulo sa isang dalaga."

Sinita ko po sila na pababayaan na ang dalaga, ngunit hindi sila nakinig.

Nilapitan ko po yung pinakamalaki at pinakatadtad ng tattoo at sinuntok sa batok, sinipa ang kanyang motorsiklo, nilabnot ko ang kanyang hikaw sa ilong at inihagis sa lupa. Sinabihang ko pang, "Hayaan nyo siya o magsanib ang balat sa tinalupan dito."

Bilib na bilib ang San Pedro. "Kailan ito nangyari?"

"Mga ilang saglit lang po."

I know this is way too late. It was the birthday celebration of my better half on the same day or I could have been in SM City early last sunday and spared myself 5 hours of television advertisment. According to my server access logs we're getting requests for Pacquiao vs Barrera fight results last October 6, 2007 (Oct. 7 Phil. time) so it's only proper to give them what they're looking for.

Obviously Manny Pacquiao won over Marco Antonio Barrera despite all the controversy Pacquiao faced locally. The first 5 rounds of the fight showed that Barrera is capable of sending Pacquiao to the floor especially on rounds 3 and 4. Yes, Marco Antonio Barrera punched harder. In the end, it's still Pacquiao who got the crowns by punching more and dictate the fight.

Will there be a trilogy? Barrera was quoted saying there will no trilogy thinking he would win but I guess he's thinking hard about it right now.

I'm not trying to fuel enraged Filipinos but what do you think of this.

Not that PayPal has never reached the Philippine shores. We already have PayPal a while back. Only that the one they gave us before was a way to pay for our online purchases. Now we are able to receive payments/donations through them. A boon to programmers, designers, professional bloggers, writers, SEOs and whoever who live off the internet. The ability to receive funds alone is reason for us to rejoice.

If you haven't heard of PayPal before, which I doubt. It's a payment gateway/service acquired by eBay a long time ago that enabled payment for items and services bid, bought or sold at their stores. It's a hassle free form of transferring funds online. If that wasn't clear enough, picture this: PayPal is virtually your money on the internet. It is so because it's the widest accepted way of sending or receiving online funds.

PayPal being finally here is perfect. Except for one thing. You can only withdraw the amount to a US bank. I'm not clear yet whether you should open an account with a bank in the US or having an account to a local US based bank is enough. I do have one workaround at the moment that could work. It's allowed to withdraw funds to a debit card. Unionbank issues VISA debit cards locally called EON or eWallet. Take your pick. I have EON and it works like a charm for online purchases. I'm definitely going to try withdraw money to it in the next few days when I'll be charging my offshore clients for services rendered.

Last week we found another gem restaurant in Iloilo City. Picea in Mabini-Texas Streets beside Ilolo Central Elementary School. Having passed by a Picea store in Mandurriao, they give an impression of being all desserts. But apart from their luscious cakes, they serve heavenly pasta and ribs, particularly the carbonara and the country style rib. Picea supplies big hotel restaurants in Iloilo City with cakes so definitely their cakes are on the top of your list when you go visit them. We had blueberry cheesecakes and sans-rivals.

Their baby back ribs is so tasteful that we have been back twice last week and could have been there yesterday if they weren't closed. I don't know why they're closed on a saturday night because saturday night is still "the gimik" night in Iloilo City.

Picea is one of those restaurants that definitely sets out on giving the best service and food quality to their customers. The food got to taste better when the kitchen is far bigger than the dining area. And oh, those indirect lighting makes the scene perfect. Lastly, quality doesn't come cheap but they're all worth it.